Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Great Expectations

Lately, I've been dealing a lot with expectations of people; what I think they should be doing, saying, acting, etc. I expect them to do certain things and act a certain way {typically towards me} and when they don't I get extremely bothered by it. To the point of turning my frustration into harsh words and ill feelings towards said person and then voicing those feelings of anger to someone else which just stirs up the fire in my heart even more.
They should be doing this for me. They should talking like this to me. Why aren't they doing this for me, I would do it for them? I wish they would see this is what I want them to do and just do it. If they were a better friend they would do this for me instead. I did this for them before, why aren't they doing it for me now?
How incredibly selfish is that? How so openly ugly can someone be? Yet, I know I'm not alone and these thoughts are probably shared by all those reading today. ((If you never do this to people, congrats. Email me your tricks of trade)) But for the rest of us, these are true emotions we face daily, despite how much we don't want them to be apart of us.

Then, I got a nice little awakening this Sunday at church, where all my revelations seem to be happening lately //more on that later// YAY! go God. 
Anyway.. back to my awakening. OK, are you ready? You should probably set down for this... 
Here goes....

Friends, when we start to get disappointed in others because we had expectations of them and they let us down, I imagine this is just a tinniest of tiny example of what God feels when we don't do for Him all that we should. When we aren't good friends and children to Him.
 I can just imagine God thinking, "I gave MY ONLY SON for you. My Son, who was perfect in every way shape and form, And you can't even pray to Me? You can't even take time out of your day to read My word. Even worse... You. Are. Ashamed of Me. Ashamed to speak my presence."
Man, talk about feeling like the worst person ever, right?

John 3:16  For God so loved the world,that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."

After wanting to curl up in a corner and cry my eyes out in such shame.. God spoke again and said,
"But I love you anyway. I love you more than you could possibly imagine, and you are Mine."
Holy smokes. Talk about an eye opener. And a feeling of hope and love all at the same time. Friends, we must not hold each other to such great expectations. We must be patient with one another and cherish the good things we DO HAVE and DO RECEIVE. We must forgive and love as God does for us all the time. The next time you begin to get angry or discouraged at something someone did or didn't do for you, take a step back, pray, and let it go. Your rewards for doing this my friends will be greater than you can possibly imagine! Watch your life begin to fill up with peace, love, and happiness! 

Proverbs 10:12 "Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses."
Romans 13:8  "Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law."
Proverbs 17:17  "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."

All my love.


Tucker said...

oh wow. i struggle with that too! and needed to read that today. thank you (:

Becky Mercado said...

Wow....I have been feeling that so much lately. People will always let you down. Only God is ALWAYS faithful and He knows our heart, our intentions...even when others don't. Knowing that though is different than doing. When others disappoint, I tend to just tend to want to cut them off. If I'm alone, no one can hurt me or disappoint me. It's sooo hard. It takes a lot of prayer. I can't do it alone....God has to help me. thank you for sharing....it is my constant struggle not to be bitter....btw....love the songs....some of my favorites! I'll remember u in my prayers and I hope you know ur not alone.